Hurt People Hurt People

Learning how the Holy Spirit works in our lives to overcome negative behavior patterns

Introduction

In our last article, we discussed the transmissibility of sin. In this article, we will explore the phrase "hurt people hurt people" which encapsulates a profound truth about human behavior: those who are wounded most often, in turn, wound others. This concept aligns closely with the biblical understanding of sin's transmissibility. Sin, once introduced into a relationship or community, tends to propagate, causing a cycle of harm. This essay delves into the transmissibility of sin, the importance of controlling emotions, and how our family of origin influences our behavior. Through the lens of biblical counseling, we will explore how understanding these dynamics can help individuals break free from destructive cycles.

The Transmissibility of Sin

Sin has a pervasive nature, spreading from person to person much like a contagion. When someone sins against another, it can provoke a sinful response, perpetuating a cycle of harm. The Bible provides numerous examples of this phenomenon.

In Genesis 4, Cain's murder of Abel led to his own curse and alienation. This act of violence stemmed from Cain's jealousy and anger—emotions that, unchecked, led to sin. Similarly, King David's sin with Bathsheba and the subsequent murder of Uriah resulted in familial strife and rebellion (2 Samuel 11-12). David's actions set off a chain reaction, demonstrating how one sin can lead to further transgressions and widespread consequences.

Jesus addressed the cycle of sin in His teachings. In Matthew 5:39-44, He calls His followers to respond to evil with good, breaking the cycle of retaliation and sin. By turning the other cheek and loving enemies, Jesus provides a radical approach to overcoming the transmissibility of sin.

Controlling Emotions

Emotions play a crucial role in the propagation of sin. Uncontrolled emotions can lead to actions that harm others and perpetuate sin. The Bible offers wisdom on managing emotions, particularly anger, which often leads to sinful behavior.

Proverbs 29:11 states, "Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end." This verse highlights the importance of self-control. James 1:19-20 further advises, "My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires." By controlling our emotions, particularly anger, we can prevent the spread of sin.

The Limbic System and the Frontal Cortex

Understanding the brain's functioning can provide deeper insights into why controlling emotions is essential. The limbic system, which includes structures such as the amygdala and hippocampus, is responsible for processing emotions and memory. During hyper-emotional states, such as anger or fear, the limbic system becomes highly active.